164: Is Your Kid Always Angry? Here's Why Anger Is a Secondary Emotion (and How to Create Emotional Safety)

Does your child go from angry at breakfast to yelling "I hate you" by dinner?

In today's episode, I unpack why your child seems angry all the time and what's REALLY going on underneath. We get into where does people pleasing come from, which is an important starting point since so many of us grew up conflict avoidant, sitting on suppressed anger.

You'll learn:

• What causes people pleasing, and how it shapes the way you react to anger

• How a "good girl" childhood can lead to a conflict avoidant personality as an adult

• Why a five-year-old's anger comes out in such messy ways (and yours did, too)

• How your own repressed anger can show up when your child starts yelling

• Why anger is a secondary emotion, and what it might be protecting your sensitive kid from

• Why mom rage can flare the second your child gets angry at you

• What is emotional safety, and what does it look like on a hard day?

• What softening really means when your child is kicking and calling you names

• How to create emotional safety when you're too angry to soften

• Why it can feel like gentle parenting doesn't work, even with the right script

If your child seems angry ALL the time and you've started to wonder if this is just who they are, this episode is for you.

Here's to raising resilient kids,
Dr. Hilary

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