158: Kindergarten Transition for Sensitive Kids: What the Bedtime Meltdowns Really Mean and How to Help Your Child Adjust
Does your sensitive child seem totally fine at school, calm at drop off and easygoing with their teacher, only to completely fall apart when bedtime comes, leaving you wondering what a meltdown showing up somewhere you weren't looking actually means?
In this episode, I walk you through how I'm watching for signs of stress in my own sensitive child during her kindergarten transition, even though she isn't showing any of the signs I expected.
I talk about the water pitcher concept I use to explain how kids carry stress they don't show, and how a child can separate just fine, do great with her teacher, and still be overwhelmed by everything her body is managing all day. I share the one meltdown we did have, what set it off, and why bedtime tears finally showed up.
You'll learn:
Why a child can separate without tears and still be carrying a full day of stress
What the water pitcher concept explains about meltdowns that seem to come from nowhere
How stress hormones make it harder for overtired kids to fall asleep
Why bedtime tears show up even when the day looked easy
What to say when your child tells you they hate school and never want to go back
How play helps a child process a school transition that didn't make sense to them yet
Why pushing through playtime can trigger the meltdown you were trying to avoid
What it means when your child says they save their tears for you
How to tell the difference between a hard transition and separation anxiety
Why occasional meltdowns during a big transition don't mean something's wrong
If you've been searching for what a calm kindergarten transition is hiding, or wondering how to build emotional safety for a sensitive kid, this episode is for you.
Here's to raising resilient kids,
Dr. Hilary
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