161: Why Are My Kids Always Fighting? Here's Why Sibling Rivalry Isn't the Problem

Does your day feel like one meltdown right after another? Do you dread the sound of your two kids playing in the other room, because you already know how it's going to end?

In today's episode, I unpack what changed for Angela and Andrew, parents of Hudson, who turned three in January, and Nala, who's almost two. Hudson is their sensitive kid, and before they found me, their house ran on power struggles, meltdown after meltdown, and the sinking feeling Andrew got walking in the door after work. Angela was burnt out and looking for parenting help, and every account she found told her something different.

They open up about the argument the two of them had over one Instagram tip, the Band-Aid fixes that never held, and what happened once they had one approach they could both run together. Now their kids play together for long stretches, work through their own frustration, and ask each other, "Are you having a big feeling?"

You'll learn:

• Why parental burnout builds when your days are meltdown after meltdown

• What Andrew names as the reason for gentle parenting not working in their house

• What to look for in parenting help when every account contradicts the last one

• Why a highly sensitive first kid can leave you doubting your own instincts

• What Angela and Andrew did differently with big emotions in their first weeks

• Why sibling rivalry gets loud when little kids have no tools for frustration

• What sibling conflict looks like once your kids can work through it themselves

• How emotional safety lets you repair with your child after you mess up

• What parent coaching looked like week to week for two burnt-out parents

If you're the one holding ALL of it together while your sensitive kid falls apart and your partner is running a completely different playbook … this one's for you. Here's the thing: your child can't be the one to change first, and you can't control your way into a calmer house. You can change how you show up, and that's the KEY that makes every strategy work. I know it can feel SO far out of reach from where you're sitting. Angela and Andrew got there, and so can you!

Here's to raising resilient kids,

Dr. Hilary

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