166: The Shame Vs Guilt Difference That Lets You Correct Your Sensitive Child Without Them Hearing ‘I Am a Bad Kid’

If you’ve ever googled “are time outs effective,” puzzled over time out vs time in, or typed “do time outs work” because something just doesn’t feel right, this one is for you.

In this episode, I break down the difference between a punishment timeout and a break your child needs.

You’ll learn:

• What the one-minute rule for time outs for 3 year olds assumes about your child

• What time outs for 2 year olds ask of a toddler brain mid-meltdown

• Why are time outs not developmentally appropriate for a child who already knows the rule

• What the shame vs guilt definition reveals about the story your child tells on the stairs

• What the time in vs time out debate keeps leaving out

• What a bored preschooler and a baby sibling at dinner reveal about breaks

• What two keys decide whether a break feels like support or punishment

• How breaks build emotional regulation skills in kids and the grown-ups they watch

• What happens when you remove your child at the very first sign of hitting

• Why emotional regulation in preschoolers can sound like “go away,” then “come back”

If you’ve binged every gentle parenting how-to-discipline video and still feel a pit in your stomach… this one’s for you.

Here’s to raising resilient kids,
Dr. Hilary

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